For most of my life I was one of those people who firmly believed that being driven and future-oriented was the correct way to approach life. I was the little girl who always knew where I was going to be in the next 5 to 10 years. Or as much as any young person could ever plan their future. I was certain I was going to be a chemistry major, I wanted to follow my father's footsteps in pursuing a degree in chemistry where I would land a great job after college and live a happy life.
When I entered high school I new that I needed to follow the honors student track, taking the honors classes, graduating in the top 10% of my high school class, and participating in clubs and sports. By the time I was in my senior year I felt that I was driven and accomplished, poised and ready to enter college with my plan in place: get a degree in chemistry, join a sorority, graduate, get a great job, etc. So what I did not anticipate was change. I had set myself up to follow a single story, and unfortunately that did not go as a planned.
Now I am in my junior year of college and I have done none of those things. I am at a school I never thought I would end up. I am majoring in a field that I used to think was pointless, and I am not as highly involved as I would like to be. When I entered college and everything stopped going according to plan I was devastated. I was so unhappy that I switched schools once, switched majors five times, and did not join a club until this year. I became paralyzed at one point. I, who had always known what I wanted, had no idea what I was doing. I was very lost, and as an individual who thrives under structure, I found that I had nothing to cling to. I hated that feeling, nothing caught my attention and I was so, so sick of people telling me that I shouldn't rush choosing a major, that it would come to me eventually. Well, they were right, but I hated that they were right. For that past two years I just took classes, I was uncommitted and uninterested. I eventually pulled myself together, and regained stability, but it wasn't easy and I learned a lot of hard and painful lessons.
This year, I feel that I have regained my footing, and I have gained perspective on how important embracing change and being flexible is. I was following and limiting myself to a single story, and when that single story did not go as planned I was devastated. Now I know that a lot of a person's 20's is unpredictable, scratch that, a lot of LIFE in general is unpredictable, and for as much as a dislike deviating from my single story, it is necessary. I can't stop it and now I have grown enough to know I don't think I would want to. I am in no way one hundred percent okay with change, it still makes my stomach hurt, but I am aware that it is necessary, inevitable and for the most part healthy. So, now I live trying to acknowledge that living a single story is not realistic and I am okay with that. I am actually the happiest I have ever been, so I guess I should say, "bring on the change, I am ready!"
-Emma
This right here is a blog for my ESHESA 2570 class. Please enjoy and remember that I think I'm funny, but don't feel obligated to laugh at my jokes. Oh, and this is for a class, so serious business is going on here.
Thursday, November 7, 2013
Saturday, November 2, 2013
Feedback
A common feeling that comes to mind when I think about feedback is that awful screeching sound that a microphone emits when you step too close to the doohickey and the thingamabob. The next thing that comes to mind is another feeling of pain because feedback means I have room for improvement and I like to unrealistically believe I am perfect. I know that is not a smart way to live, thinking that there is no room for self-improvement, in fact, the Emotionally Intelligent Leadership model is largely based upon self improvement. Feedback is not my favorite thing, but I learned through the years about how I can work on being receptive of feedback, because feedback shines a light on areas that need improvement and also in areas where you excel.
So this is what is discovered about my relationship with feedback. I need to remind myself to be open to it, to acknowledge the value of it, and to invite it into my daily life. I found that I am more receptive to feedback if I invite it into my life as a friend, and not as a negative entity. What I found to be interesting was that once I began to invite feedback into my life it became a very useful tool for personal and group development. I asked a coworker about feedback of my my leadership style and embraced the good news along with the areas where he told me I could improve. I will be honest and say I did not want to believe I needed to improve but hearing from a peer that there are some things I can work on is motivational. So even though it may not be my greatest friend, feedback is my greatest mentor.
So this is what is discovered about my relationship with feedback. I need to remind myself to be open to it, to acknowledge the value of it, and to invite it into my daily life. I found that I am more receptive to feedback if I invite it into my life as a friend, and not as a negative entity. What I found to be interesting was that once I began to invite feedback into my life it became a very useful tool for personal and group development. I asked a coworker about feedback of my my leadership style and embraced the good news along with the areas where he told me I could improve. I will be honest and say I did not want to believe I needed to improve but hearing from a peer that there are some things I can work on is motivational. So even though it may not be my greatest friend, feedback is my greatest mentor.
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